“Don’t ever save anything for a special occasion.
Being alive is the special occasion.“ – Mary Manin Morrissey
There are those whose genius radiates from the heart. Their gift is not an EQ thing, it’s a steady, clear goodness that isn’t saintly or soppy either. It’s strong and funny and easy to be around, but it’s peculiarly rare. I’ve only known 3 who have it, and my world is minus 1 today.
We live in terribly complicated times and it’s so ever so easy to get caught up in our own heads/schedules/urgencies that we defer or forget to love those who are loyal and undemanding.
I didn’t take the chance to pay back one of the bravest, kindest beings who always had my back and didn’t ask for a damn thing in return. And I’ve run out of chances now. Suddenly.
Don’t wait to share your gifts with your tribe, don’t wait to pull them out of harms way, don’t wait to call and check in even if there isn’t big news, don’t wait for better times, a better opportunity or a better you. Life is a’wasting
Waiting for the fish to bite or waiting for wind to fly a kite. Or waiting around for Friday night or waiting perhaps for their Uncle Jake or a pot to boil or a better break or a string of pearls or a pair of pants or a wig with curls or another chance. Everyone is just waiting. – Dr. Seuss
Princess drew fervent fans as a barista and won our
hearts as friend. That she had to draw on her resilience tougher than kevlar breaks my heart because she deserved the best. The void that she’s left has filled with the realisation that we need to get cracking, we have a tribe to serve better, and pronto.
Dave and I have had our lives enriched by knowing this characterful woman, and we’ll be ensuring that her spirit blazes on to make others’ lives more hopeful and happy in her wake.
For goodness sake don’t miss the gap with those that you really adore but somehow don’t get around to saying how much they mean to you. Regret slices and stings for a lifetime.
“If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting?“ – Stephen Levine
It was our priviliege to know Ntombekhaya “Princess” Mlonyeni, dear friend, may she rest in peace.
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6 comments
Dave says:
Nov 26, 2010
I’m so sad I don’t know what to do with myself. I am, however, so grateful to have known this truly wonderful woman.
I know that it’s not easy to move beyond regret, but you were there for Princess and made her world a happier place despite all the devastating hardship she faced. I know this because you enrich all the lives you touch, and are such a blessing to us who are privileged enough to have you in our lives.
Princess was brave and hopeful to the last. She leaves behind a beautiful child who will be heartbroken by losing his mother, but will be supported by all of us who loved her too.
Thank you for posting this, Max. It adds a dimension of meaning to this tragedy.
Maximillian Kaizen says:
Nov 26, 2010
Thank you Dave, as are you – and many there are who will attest!
Grateful beyond words to have you in my life and wish that we could this back in time to let her know how appreciated she was.
May we be able to honour her memory for her son so he’ll know that his mum was someone really special.
Michelle Robertson says:
Nov 29, 2010
@Max and @Dave, I don’t have any words except to say that I have stood where you are standing and can testify to the truth of your words and the truth of your feelings. What you have written resounds and I am off to say my I Love You’s.
Maximillian Kaizen says:
Nov 29, 2010
Thank you so much Michelle! amazing how we can be hurtled so quickly between realities and time when we’re faced with a death that means something to us.
a memento mori sits patiently there in the midst of loss. we don’t get out of here alive & tis best if we live a life that is worthy of being called such. And love our people more than our deadlines.. or before we meet ours or theirs.
Appreciatively, MK
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Imogene Love says:
Dec 24, 2010
@Max and @Dave, I don’t have any words except to say that I have stood where you are standing and can testify to the truth of your words and the truth of your feelings. What you have written resounds and I am off to say my I Love You’s.